I've recently gone through some very hard times with my teenage daughter. This typically teenage angst and destructive behavior has forced me to make tough decisions regarding what is best for her and myself. I have had many friends disagree with my decision, disagree so much that they have told me that I disgust them, and asked why I even bothered having a child in the first place.
Now you are wondering, well what was this horrible disgusting decision you had to make?
Well I'll tell you, I asked my family for help and they agreed to help me and I accepted. Asking for help is very (VERY) hard for me, I like to think I'm in control of my life and have everything taken care of; you know an adult. However my teenage daughter has managed to wear me down to a slightly crazy and frazzled state, where I can't sleep well at night, I lost a promotion that I had been working on for over a year, and I started dreading going home and afraid to find what mess her and her friends left for me in the backyard, front yard or in the house. Between the time when school gets out and when I get home (about 2.5 hrs.) is what I call the Disaster Time, when most of the neighborhood teenagers are unattended and roaming free and looking for trouble. Trouble has been brought to my door many times and in many forms, I began to wonder if these kids had any brains, because I didn't see any of them use a single brain cell in any of the decisions they made.
So she is now living with her grandmother 2 hrs. away from the roaming destructive pack of teenagers who seemed to rain hell down on my home. But my friends have all let me know how this decision is very selfish of me, and that I was only thinking about myself when I made this choice. I tried to argue that my decision was a smart and that it was best for her and her future. Clearly they don't see it this way, and it made me wonder, why is asking for help from your family and accepting it so terrible? Why are they holding my feet to the fire on this matter, a matter that really doesn't affect them or their lives? Even my sister has chimed in and starting bashing me, which seems to give my (now ex) friends even more ammo to use against me. My best friend of 20 years said that she didn't know who I was anymore, and that she would be there to support my daughter but I'm on my own (and ended the email with, Later). Wow, my best friend just told me to take a hike. I sent my daughter to a home where she will be in a better school district, have private tutoring, constant supervision my my mother and will not be around the destructive teenagers that live in my neighborhood (I know she will meet more up there, but that will take time) and all of my friends are telling me what I did was wrong.
WTF? Am I missing something, I love my daughter with all of my heart and she is my whole world and I know I made the best decision for her; so why do I not have my friends support? Really what am I missing here?
Of course, most of these friends/mothers are all "stay at home mom's" or not mothers at all. So I have girl who doesn't even have kids tell me that I disgust her (btw this person is a wine drunk and is always passed out on the couch from drinking the whole bottle of white wine), and I have stay at home moms let me know that they think I'm the worst mother of the year and to take a hike. For the record I am a single mother who receives no child support and I do not take any state assistance or welfare, I live pay check to pay check and work over 40 hrs. a week.
So I say adios to you, I have become fanatically indifferent to you judgments and opinions......
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